Being a Calm Consistent Coach is an ongoing challenge. Here are some resources to help you along the way.
Here are some tips taken from Laura Markham Ph.D. post on How to Handle Your Anger at Your Child see the full article here https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peaceful-parents-happy-kids/201605/how-handle-your-anger-your-child
- Make sure your child understands your expectations before you get angry.
- Be Calm and then take action. Deep Breathes can help center and calm a person down.
- Take a break. If there is not an emergency step away from the situation.
- Listen to your anger, rather than acting on it.
- Be careful what you say because words can hurt.
- It is okay to WAIT before disciplining.
- Avoid physical force-this is usually a result of uncontrolled anger.
- Avoid threats you cannot back up.
- Tone, word choice and nonverbal communication all matter. Be conscious of the message you are sending.
- Learn to let things go.
- Be aware of your triggers and know ways to help calm yourself.
- Choose your battles.
- Taking responsibility for your own emotions will help you be able to work with child’s emotions.
- If you have struggles with anger seek help.
Consistency is key to social-emotional development. Here are some reasons taken from Sonja Raymond’s article Why Consistency Matters to Social Emotional Development https://www.letsgrowkids.org/blog/why-consistency-matters-social-emotional-development
- Learn trust
- Coping skills in stressful situations.
- Express feelings with words and communicate with others.
- Promotes confidence
- Aids is creating self-worth, cooperation and understanding of others, which help them form strong relationships.